âI can never be all the people I want and live all the lives I want. I can never train myself in all the skills I want. And why do I want? I want to live and feel all the shades, tones and variations of mental and physical experience possible in my life.â â Sylvia Plath
Optionality: the nature of accepting the possibilities of the unknown, to give every fractal self a chance to live. Iâd much rather know, but then again, not-knowing keeps all the possibilities open. It keeps all the worlds alive. Source
âThis individual has merely acquired stamps of approval and has acquired safety net upon safety net. These safety nets donât end up enabling big risk-takingâindividuals just become habitual acquirers of safety nets. The comfort of a high-paying job at a prestigious firm surrounded by smart people is simply too much to give up. When that happens, the dreams that those options were meant to enable slowly recede into the background. For a few, those destinations are in fact their dreams come trueâbut for every one of those, there are ten entrepreneurs, artists, and restaurateurs that get trapped in those institutions.â â Mihir Desai on Optionality
As humans, we tend to love âexploringâ our possibilities more than âexploitingâ and diving deep/committing to what we already have â we lean heavily toward explore in the exploit explore tradeoff curve.
This is the optionality fallacy.
In a life like the one we live in where cause and consequence is extremely hard to distinguish due to the huge number of confounding variables, trial and error reigns supreme. Though, this doesnât mean trying everything really quickly and abandoning things if results donât manifest (ahem, talented kid burnout syndrome)
Tinkering and experimenting is a more efficient investment of your time than following a set path of learning which assumes an intrinsic value in specific skills and ignores the non-linear way life works.
âAccumulate optionality through differentiation, not conformityâ recommends Torenberg
Maybe why humans constantly chase prestige: to keep doors open as a means of cross-disciplinary recognition.
Paradox of Choice
Individuals are more likely to be stressed from a larger number of options as considering more choices requires more mental effort.
Requiem for a Dream
âIâve hired a lot of very talented programmers, and one of the things I discovered was that the people who didnât graduate from college couldnât finish projects,â his father says. âBecause when you go to college, thereâs all sorts of stupid stuff you have to do in order to get through.â
It is a vertiginous thing to have so much freedomâto be always self-skeptical, always testing the reasons for your beliefs, always prepared to abandon them for something better. If you can do anything you want, then every day becomes an existential problemâan empty space of possibility that has no ceiling but also no walls and no floor.
Making the Decision Right
What Iâve come to learn over the past year is that there are two types of people: people who make the right decision and people who make the decision right.
Optimizing for optionality seems like the rational thing to do, until I really looked at my life. I had all these âoptions,â but I hadnât done any of them.
I choose the next thing and make it the best.